Today I wanted to invite Ross Jeffries to this section. And I do have an excellent article published recently in his blog, with some great ideas and perspective that I will return to discuss the tests that women submit to us. Before to comment and tell them about the points that is Ross, I would say that the women's events are an old evolutionary mechanism to select the best genes and ensure a potential or possible descendants. Many students of seduction are simply waiting for the evidence and respond as if shot from the penalty charge them. The idea of \u200b\u200bRoss, and I share, is that the evidence must be more to the way a tennis match that of a performance in the game of tennis you give and respond, not only are passively awaiting to see what they say or do, but you also become a selector of the best woman possible.
In 90% of cases (not a scientific figure much less) women tested at a man on first dates, with the following objectives:
1. If you will take seriously.
2. How care will be needed (remember that showing that hunger does not eat).
3. See how much control you can exercise over and a probable relationship.
You can pass these tests that put women and yourself can make some quizzes, because one would not find a woman who takes things seriously, not serious, needy, controlling, without character, interested lazy, mediocre or local (the latter even more difficult to identify).
Many men have been left for being "too good", have been told is better than just be good friends "or" I love you so I do not want to miss, so we just want as friends, not ruin it with things too deep. " In many cases the thing is simply that these men have not been able to recognize when they were being tested or have not been able to learn how to respond.
Women do seek testing because two attributes: strength and accuracy. One of the first things women want in a man's safety, the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. When you put a woman in her place when put rules and limits to define the relationship, it sends the message that when you can relax and feel comfortable and safe.
This search for security is the most important reason for which she will test.
The other factor is the ambivalence, or what Ross calls the syndrome "Illume how would the thing." Often you find that a woman is not attracted to you in physical form and passion as you wish. Maybe you're not the prototype that she is looking for physically, it may have been hurt in a relationship, or maybe there is another candidate who competes with you for this woman and you do not know.
Either way, you can know when this happens the moment you hear someone say something like "Well, I would go out with you next Friday, but why not call me in the evening on Friday to confirm." As you would like to go out with you, but not so sure. Personally I have this belief: when they want to date you just do, there may be unforeseen, certainly, but they do, are tardy, you name it, they call you and you feel an honest apology, and you end up seeing. It is not something "if I have nothing to do and me alone because we are bored."
The best way to deal with these tests is to do from a position of power. There is a concept in the Jeet Kune Do, the grand style of martial arts developed by Bruce Lee, which says that any weapon that gets in your way to attack is just a good target to destroy. From this perspective, an attack, rather than something to fear, is a wonderful opportunity to kick some ass.
tests are an opportunity to establish respect and exponentially increase its interest to you. Remember not just get blow from a ball to see if you get a goal, is to show how good a goalkeeper you and intimidate the strikers, start a counter attack that area alone. Instead of asking "oh, why she tells me this "or" what I did wrong "or" will be what I said either "think" wow, a chance to show character. "
Your attitude should be that every rude or nasty to her, every trial is an opportunity valuable for you to
1. Establish respect
2. Increase its interest to you
3. Intensify their desire to please
When you put on your site, from the same place she will come to you.
But I'm not talking about the male who makes a fuss because his wife arrived 10 minutes late for his appointment, that's not the best example to follow. This man is only sending a message: "I can not control himself." I'm not saying do not be mad, or do not express your discomfort, just do not get impulsive and hysterical beast.
Another thing that works is to act as a wounded man, the kind that say "how could you do that," or "but you told me" or "I thought we had something." You have to stay calm and focused from the position of Take it or leave. That makes part of an attitude or mindset that Ross called WILL MOVE AWAY FROM IT IF YOU HAVE TO DO IT. Atento
this: A woman only show true passion for you if at some level she feels she can miss. When you show this willingness to walk away, and this works in any area, it sends the message that you are valuable, you're a prize, and give them an overview of the opportunity for you.
In my life I have learned this valuable lesson, when you look too much like a chance she escapes you when you seem not to look, or when you're ready to go, she is coming.
opposite voltage, or yin and yang, as it works.
To start the hunt!
Until next time!
0 comments:
Post a Comment